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I’m in love with TED. Ted talks have me on the edge of my seat. I’m learning so much and it’s changing many things in my life, my mind, my heart. TED talks are about 15 or 20 minutes long, presented by speakers who are accomplished and entirely qualified to be speaking on their subjects.
I like to prop my iPad up on my dressing table and watch these while I do my hair and makeup. Yesterday, I caught this video below from supermodel Cameron Russell about the superficiality of modeling for the camera. The most powerful bit for me is when she shows you 6 photos of herself as a model (bikinis, climbing sexy men, on the cover of Vogue) and then shows you photos of her on the very same day. She admits to the images of her not being her. She says, “they build me.” This message is so important for all women, but that’s not my point today.
Watch the video and then keep reading…
That was awesome, right?
So what I want to talk to you about today is using your photography honestly. I very much doubt that many of you reading are photographing models for magazines. But let’s think about the times that the everyday family photographer can be selling lies:
- The family you photographed last week who look happy and great on camera, yet the parents are just a few days from quitting their marriage.
- The senior session for the girl who looks secure but is just wearing a mask because she hates her body.
- The couple who you do a session for and, although they posed like pros and took all your direction, all they could think about during the session was anything but being in the arms of the other.
This isn’t good enough for me. I know I can’t control those things – and there are all sorts of issues going on in the lives of our clients. But if the people who come to me can have things like this going on in their lives, I want to do whatever I can to help them see another way.
Some photographers lie to the world while others lie to their clients. They trim 10 lbs off their lady without saying a thing and she might think “wow I look goood!” but really, aren’t we just helping her be delusional about herself? That’s a hard sentence to write. Because I do that. And I don’t know if I intend on stopping. But if we’re going to get honest, let’s get honest, right?
You know when everything changed for me? Beloved. Discovering the Beloved genre of photography changed everything for me when I felt I had no hope in hell of getting to tell truths with my camera instead of lies. I don’t need to tell you everything that Beloved has done for me. You can read that here. But let me tell you…getting to take couples and families into a space of honesty and then photographing them makes a difference in their lives and mine. An hour with you might be the thing that pulls that couple back from the edge. Or helps that girl realise the things she loves about herself. Will you join us?
Brooke Snow talks about doing a Beloved session with just one person – powerful for building positive self esteem
The Beloved Collective – get clued upPin It